"Drawing on her own experience, her work with hundreds of survivors as the head of a rape crisis center in Boston, and three decades of grappling with rape as a feminist intellectual and writer, Abdulali tackles some of our thorniest questions about rape, articulating the confounding way we account for who gets raped and why--and asking how we want to raise the next generation. In interviews with survivors from around the world we hear moving personal accounts of hard-earned strength, humor, and wisdom that collectively tell the larger story of what rape means and how healing can occur."--Dust jacket flap.

Introduction -- Who am I to talk? -- Shut up or die, crazy bitch -- Totally different, exactly the same -- Yes, no, maybe -- What did you expect? -- Oh, please -- How to save a life -- The Abdulali guidelines for saving a rape survivor's life -- The official version -- Your love is killing me -- A brief pause for horror -- A bagful of dentures -- Teflon Man -- Keys to the kingdom -- A brief pause for fury -- Rx: polite conversation -- All in the family -- A brief pause for confusion -- STealing freedom, stealing joy -- Lead weights for drowning -- A brief pause for ennui -- The quality of mercy -- Your rape is worse than mine -- Good girls don't -- Rape prevention for beginners -- Boys will... -- A brief pause for terror -- The full catastrophe.