Understanding loss. Obvious losses -- Not-so-obvious losses -- Loss related to age -- Limbo losses -- Inevitable losses -- Other losses -- What loss feels like -- The stages of recovery -- Surviving. 1. You will survive -- 2. If you need it, get help at once -- 3. Acknowledge the loss -- 4. You are not alone -- 5. It's OK to feel -- 6. Be with the pain -- 7. You're great! -- 8. Give yourself time to heal -- 9. The healing process has its progressions and regressions -- 10. Tomorrow will come -- 11. Breathe! -- 12. Get lots of rest, now -- 13. Stick to your schedule -- 14. Keep decision-making to a minimum -- 15. It's OK to make "silly" mistakes -- 16. It's OK to go through the motions in slow motion -- 17. It's OK to need comforting -- 18. Seek the support of others -- 19. Touching and hugging -- 20. Find other who have survived a similar loss -- 21. Seek wise guidance -- 22. Surround yourself with things that are alive -- 23. Reaffirm your beliefs -- 24. Sundays are the worst -- 25. The question of suicide -- Healing. 26. Do your mourning now -- 27. Earlier losses may surface -- 28. Be gentle with yourself -- 29. Heal at your own pace -- 30. Don't try to rekindle the old relationship -- 31. Make a pact with a friend -- 32. Mementos -- 33. Anticipate a positive outcome -- 34. Expect to feel afraid -- 35. It's OK to feel depressed -- 36. It's OK to feel anger -- 37. It's OK to feel guilty -- 38. You may want to hire a professional or two -- 39. When you might want counseling or therapy -- 40. A complete medial workup may be in order -- 41. Some depressions may require medication -- 42. Nutrition -- 43. Remember : you're vulnerable -- 44. Beware of the rebound -- 45. Under-indulge in addictive activities -- 46. Pamper yourself -- 47. Dreams can be healing -- 48. Sleep patterns may change -- 49. Sexual desire may change -- 50. Remaining distraught is no proof of love -- 51. Surround yourself with goodness and light -- 52. Pray, meditate, contemplate -- 53. Keep a journal -- 54. There is a beauty in sadness -- 55. Let yourself heal fully -- 56. Affirm yourself -- 57. Visualization -- 58. Use color to lift your spirit -- 59. Laugh! -- 60. As healing continues -- Growing. 61. You're stronger now -- 62. Let go of the loss and move on -- 63. Forgiveness is letting go -- 64. Forgive the other person -- 65. Forgive yourself -- 66. Take stock of the good -- 67. You are a better person for having loved -- 68. Praise yourself for the courage to relate -- 69. Changes -- 70. Start anew -- 71. Invite new people into your life -- 72. Develop new interests -- 73. But don't forget the old interests -- 74. Groups -- 75. Self-improvement anyone? -- 76. Your words have power -- 77. Think "both/and" rather than "either/or" -- 78. The freedom to choose -- 79. It's OK to ask -- 80. It's OK for other to say no -- 81. It's OK for other to say yes -- 82. Fear can be a friend -- 83. The antidote for anxiety is action -- 84. Postpone procrastination -- 85. The past -- 86. Anniversaries -- 87. Solitude -- 88. Creativity -- 89. Enjoy! -- 90. Appreciation -- 91. Do something for someone else -- 92. Appreciate your growth -- 93. Your happiness is up to you -- 94. Celebrate!