When my friends came out -- We don't need your God! -- We are not your project : sexual behavior is gay identity -- Stigma, shame, and politics : the GLBT experience in the broader culture -- Gay versus Christian and gay Christians -- Who are we looking to for validation? : the GLBT quest for good news from God -- Reclaiming the word love : measurable unconditional behaviors -- The Big 5 : principles for a more constructive conversation -- Laying the foundation : commitment, boldness, and the Big 5 -- Building the bridge : asking the right questions -- Crossing a bridge : the world reads Christians, not the bible -- Testimonies from the gay community.