Introduction -- The structure and foundation of a good marriage -- No longer cruising down the river : the early stage of adjusting to disability -- Practical solutions to practical problems -- Communicating and problem-solving as a couple -- Romance and sexual intimacy -- Negotiating and implementing livable roles -- Stress management and coping strategies (or don't forget to breathe!) -- Heartfelt conflicts : opposing views on protection, expectations, and helping your child -- Supports outside of your family -- Serious marital troubles -- A marriage transformed -- Divorce considerations -- Remarriage : the need to do it differently -- Learning from long-term marriages -- A closing thought -- Appendix 1 : More advice from parents -- Appendix 2 : Experiences transformed into poetry -- Appendix 3 : Participant responses to selected survey items.