Calming down, growing up, getting closer. If you're not under control, you're cannot be in connection ; It's not what you have in common, it's what you have inside ; If you're not part of the solution, you're still part of the problem -- The fires of marital committment. Time belongs to no man, especially a married one (The fire of time accountability) ; In order to movein together, you have to move out on your own (The fire of extended families) ; This mess is a place! (The fire of household management) ; A screamfree marriage leads to scream-filled sex (The fire of sexuality) -- Getting closer through intimacy and love. Intimacy always begins with an "I" ; Let love rule.