Introduction -- Have an affair -- Make the "peaceful assumption" -- Spend more time with your kids -- Take your wife's advice -- Avoid the "S" word -- Don't know the answer -- Have a special cause -- Be able to laugh at yourself -- Don't let your competitive nature get the best of you -- Learn about life from golf -- Grant yourself one hour -- Don't jump ship -- See it as a test -- Flash forward for instant perspective -- See stress as nonsexy -- Share your dreams -- Be a part of the solution -- Give 'em a break -- Keep your perspective -- Spend time with your buddies -- Practice mindfulness -- Look at what the cat dragged in -- Do at least one really nice, small thing for someone, at least once a week -- Avoid "as if" assumptions -- Be careful of the comparison trap -- Take up yoga -- Schedule time for yourself -- Get out of the serious mode -- Think "maybe so, maybe not" -- Don't let the "turkeys" get you down -- Rid yourself of a busy mind -- Create an "easier life" list -- Keep in mind that the fantasy is often better than the reality -- Read your audience -- Have conflict without it having you -- Take the quirks with the perks -- Find a place to park -- Avoid the pursuit trap -- Think c-a-l-m -- Eliminate entitlement thinking -- Learn from fellow "sweat"-ers -- Be for something rather than against it -- Blow off steam -- Avoid the excuse, "that's the nature of the business" -- Be aware of the "taken away" trap -- Have a beginner's mind -- Don't do it yourself -- Engage in less picking and choosing -- Keep in mind that no decision is a decision -- Memorize the words, "there's no such thing as bad weather-only different kinds of good weather" -- Try the "pause and come back to it" technique -- Remember that sometimes less effort is better -- Ease up behind the wheel -- Quiet down -- Have a spare set -- Anticipate the best -- Be sure you're mad at what you think you are -- Experience the power of being present -- Identify your stress signals -- Become more accepting of change -- Reflect on the power of prevention -- Redefine the word "emergency" -- Develop some nonnegotiables -- Avoid overidentifying with your role -- Wait -- Have a change of heart -- Honor the humility factor -- Acknowledge your inner intelligence -- Use hindsight to create foresight -- Diversify -- Calculate the number of things that went right today -- Underreact -- Let go of the past -- Anticipate defensiveness -- Think "yeah, so" -- Try not to be frustrated when it might be more appropriate to be grateful -- Consider that "needing a vacation" may not be the real problem -- Avoid the "caught up" trap -- See the irony of "striving" for balance -- Check your blind spots -- Open your heart to compassion -- Live by the motto, "it is as it is" -- Don't miss the fun! -- See things from a distance -- Prevent little things from becoming front-page news -- Use compliments as a stress-reducing tool -- Keep in mind that practice doesn't make perfect-perfect practice makes perfect -- Be more generous -- Let others be right about the little things -- Apply the "one-year" standard -- Extend compassion to your daily life -- Stop broadcasting your thoughts -- Practice the rule of two -- Become a health nut -- Have a favorite cause -- Respect the law of diminishing returns -- Be a quitter -- Remind yourself-one more time-of the mood factor -- Ask the question, "if not now, when?" -- Deepen your perspective.