"Most of us have no idea that others don't see as we see, nor do they process their experiences in the same way we do. And that fact is especially crucial in relationships, whether with intimate partners, friends, or in our professional lives. A person whose go-to stance in life relies on feeling and another whose orientation is toward thinking or acting will respond completely differently to everything from a simple request in an email to a life crisis. Understanding the motivations and dynamics of these different personality types can be the key that unlocks sometimes mystifying behavior in others--and in ourselves. Suzanne Stabile's new book on the nine Enneagram types and how they behave and experience relationships will guide readers into deeper insights about themselves, their types, and others' personalities so that they can have healthier, more life-giving relationships"--Page 4 of cover.

Introduction -- 8s : vulnerability is not weakness -- 9s : risking conflict for connection -- 1s : things could always be better -- 2s : your feelings or mine? -- 3s : being everyone but myself -- 4s : go away but don't leave -- 5s : my fences have gates -- 6s : question everything -- 7s : it's all good -- Conclusion.