Acknowledgments -- Introduction: children of hoarders -- Understanding hoarding : the problem underlying the mess -- How your parent's hoarding affects you -- Talking to your parent about the problem : what works and what does not -- Managing your reactions and coping with your emotions : a mindfulness and acceptance oriented approach -- Tools for coping specifically with anger, depression, and disgust -- Improving your relationship with your parent -- Talking to others about the problem -- If you live with your parent -- Potential adversaries and allies in the community -- Inheriting the mess: how to tackle cleaning up when mourning the loss of your parent -- References.