1Reflections on Birth Parents -- She Is Among Us / Christina Frank 11 -- To Search or Not to Search / Pamela Kruger 22 -- Living with a Very Open Adoption / Dan Savage 34 -- Two Daughters, Two Destinies / Laura Shaine Cunningham 44 -- 2 Encounters with the Unexpected -- Post-Adoption Panic / Melissa Fay Greene 59 -- Baby on Board-but Not Everyone Else / Sheila Stainback 70 -- Second Time Around / Amy Rackear 81 -- Color Her Becky: Grappling with Race / Jill Smolowe 93 -- First Thirteen / Jana Wolff 105 -- Fallout from a Less-Than-Perfect Beginning / Bonnie Miller Rubin 116 -- 3 Variations on Family -- Which Ones Are Yours? / Jacquelyn Mitchard 127 -- Day That Hallmark Forgot / Jesse Green 140 -- Standing Out and Standing Up in the Crowd / Marcelle Clements 153 -- Divorce, Adoption-Style / Antoinette Martin 164 -- Keeping It All in the Family / Bob Shacochis 176 -- 4 Personal Transformations -- Reluctant No More (Not That I Ever Was) / Joe Treen 195 -- And Then Everything Changed / Adam Pertman 206 -- Across Two Cultures / Emily Prager 217 -- Orphan Myth / Doug Hood 226 -- Special Needs / Jenifer Levin 239.